if i want my mil’s help with max and bella because i have an appointment, first and foremost, i have to ask her with full preparation that she will not do it. this is a must. i have to ask her as if i don’t need her help but that if she happen to be [...]
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Part Two: How I Have To Ask My Mother-In-Law For Help With My Children.
Posted in Boundaries, Family, Transition on August 2, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Part One: How I Began To Get Along With My Mother-In-Law
Posted in Boundaries, Family, Transition on August 1, 2009 | Comments Off
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i dropped max off with his lola, today (“lola” is what filipino’s call their grandma and “lolo” is the word for grandpa, but my father-in-law, a manly white man, refused to answer to LOLO). she offered to take the kids and i out to lunch, so i accepted the [...]
“You think I’m stupid.”
Posted in Boundaries, Max, Transition, Words on July 20, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
something about max’s personality has recently been brought to my attention. it is a trait that is so familiar, only i understand experiencing it as an adult and have not once considered it from a child’s perspective.
he is sensitive, like his mommy (not to be confused with, psychic). he is sensitive to words and to [...]
“If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for a reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.”
Posted in Boundaries, Family, Words on July 3, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
“jump! jump! jump!”
“watch me! max!”
they bounce from one bed to the next. learning how to jump and bounce off one another in such a way that one doesn’t go crying to mama.
“i wanna show you a trick.” max says to bella. “close your eyes.”
he runs to the next room, a trick up his shirtless sleeve, [...]
We let Max eat meat…
Posted in Boundaries, Eating Well, Health, Max on April 13, 2009 | 3 Comments »
One thing I forgot to mention in my Easter post, was how funny I think it is that these holiday moments, often the ones I catch on film, are really anti-climatic! The excitement is in the preparation, in imagining the reaction of my children, and in the knowing of memories being created. Though, [...]
Sometimes, you gotta leave your children with someone else… to see a movie.
Posted in Allergy Diet, BellaGrace, Boundaries, Family, Marriage, Respite on March 8, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
First conversation when I [just barely] opened my eyes this morning:
Max {hovering over me with a sense of urgency in his voice, whispering loudly}: Mom… MOM!
Me {groggy}: Whah?
Max {still, in a strong whisper}: YOUR bathroom is DISGUSTING!
Me {as if it were my dad telling me}: Oh, I know. I guess I [...]
Holiday! Hair!
Posted in Boundaries, Family, Max on November 28, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Our home holiday fare consisted of a vegan/wheat/gluten free lasagna, which was delicious (believe it or not!), and a warm multigrain loaf of bread. We cooked, bickered over ingredients and when to start this or that part of the preparations in order to have it all ready to be layered, and enjoyed our children running [...]
Boundary Setting 101
Posted in Abuse, Boundaries, Family, Friends on October 23, 2008 | 4 Comments »
I learned something. Something big about setting boundaries with people. A few things, actually.
Its really hard for people like me, people who suffered verbal/emotional abuse at the hand of a parent, to know how to set boundaries. I’m learning as an adult and hope to teach my children as I learn. First of all, I [...]
Hitting as a form of discipline.
Posted in Boundaries, Max on October 4, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Last Thursday… Max talked me into taking him and Bella to the playground after story time at the library. We had a full morning with going to the library then having lunch with Papa Hal. I didn’t want to go to the playground, but my little negotiator was so convincing that he would be a [...]
Wow, the nerve!
Posted in Boundaries on April 30, 2008 | 3 Comments »
I’m sure by now some of you are tired of reading about my MIL woes. For those of you who are not, read on…
First of all, for those of you who may not know, we are vegetarian and are raising our children vegetarian. If you have a hard time understanding why we would [...]
